It can be interesting as well as useful to think about the way we define ourselves as individuals. We tend to focus on particular facets: size, gender, vocation, material possessions, family name, where we were educated or grew up, things like that.
Some of us perceive and define ourselves solely in negative terms: our incapability, unworthiness, faults, past, behavior, comparing ourselves unfavorably to other people or against unrealistic ideals. If we define ourselves in such limited or deprecatory terms, we are very far indeed from true self-acceptance.
In my own case, I try to recognize and acknowledge the whole me.. That includes the sum of all my experiences, good and bad. It concerns my present reality: not the me I want to be or hope to be, nor the me I think others see, and certainly not the former me who no longer exists. By taking a hard, cool appraisal of myself, I'm able to make sound decisions about my life and where I need to go. We should know ourselves because these are the only things we can truly know. We cannot get inside anyone else's situation. We can better judge ourselves.
Some of us perceive and define ourselves solely in negative terms: our incapability, unworthiness, faults, past, behavior, comparing ourselves unfavorably to other people or against unrealistic ideals. If we define ourselves in such limited or deprecatory terms, we are very far indeed from true self-acceptance.
In my own case, I try to recognize and acknowledge the whole me.. That includes the sum of all my experiences, good and bad. It concerns my present reality: not the me I want to be or hope to be, nor the me I think others see, and certainly not the former me who no longer exists. By taking a hard, cool appraisal of myself, I'm able to make sound decisions about my life and where I need to go. We should know ourselves because these are the only things we can truly know. We cannot get inside anyone else's situation. We can better judge ourselves.
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